Strap-On Dildos

Penetrative sex is pleasurable, allowing one to feel the sensation of something filling the body while gliding along sensitive nerve clusters. When we think about penetration sex, we tend to think of a man penetrating a woman. Thanks to sex toys, however, the penetration paradigm has opened up. I am talking about strap-on dildos, which allow a woman to become the penetrator. Here, we are going to look at the ways that a woman and her partner – male or female – can enjoy this wonderful toy.

The typical strap-on dildo features a harness that fits over a woman’s pelvis. Some varieties feature a vinyl or cloth panty instead of a harness. The dildo extends forward from the harness with roughly the same positioning and angle as a typical male penis. Some strap-ons feature realistic dildos while others are designed to maximize G-Spot stimulation. Many feature vibrating dildos and may or may not have a remote control. The harness may have an additional dildo designed to fit inside the woman wearing the strap-on. This dildo functions both to provide additional stability for the harness as well as to provide the woman pleasure.

There are many places online where you can buy strap on dildos and here are some cool ideas for their use:

Two Girls One Dildo

Just because a woman is not attracted to men does not mean that she does not enjoy vaginal penetration. For lesbian couples, the strap-on dildo provides a way to share physical pleasure and enhance intimacy. Partners can vary who wears the strap-on and some allow for dildo attachments to be changed out, allowing women to experience different widths, lengths, and textures.

Something Different for Him

While the ass is still largely considered taboo and anal sex tends to be relegated to homosexual activity, more and more heterosexual men are beginning to open up to the possibility of experiencing other pleasures. Discussion about the prostate and prostate orgasms has helped open many eyes to anal play. New attention to BDSM, where “pegging” (the practice of a female Dominant penetrating her male submissive while wearing a strap-on dildo) is a common activity, has also brought attention to the idea more men enjoying anal play.

Does enjoying anal play mean you are homosexual or bisexual?

In a word, no. Sexual orientation refers to the gender of person you are attracted to, not what activity you enjoy. Anal penetration for most men is simply about receiving pleasure. For those who are interested in BDSM, a control aspect is added to this pleasure, as they tend to submit to the woman who penetrates them.

In Threes

In recent years, people have begun noticing and exploring different types of sexual relationships. This curiosity has brought polyamory (relationships involving more than two people) closer to mainstream attention. It has also invited couples to explore the option of a threesome either with a second man or in many cases, a second woman.

For a female-male-female threesome, a strap-on dildo opens up many possibilities. It allows one woman to penetrate the other while herself enjoying vaginal penetration from the male partner. It opens the threesome to double-penetration – where one woman is penetrated vaginally and anally at once, something that would otherwise only be possible with a male-female-male threesome. The versatility and exploration that a strap-on offers adds a new dimension to the threesome that can enhance pleasure and intimacy.

The strap-on is a versatile and imaginative couple’s toy. Whether used by lesbian couples, straight couples, or threesomes, it offers new ways to explore sexuality together. Couples are limited only by their own inhibitions and imagination.

Sex Toys – A Guide For Beginners

Sex toys have been around in one form or another for hundreds of years but they are becoming more popular than ever in modern day society. Often referred to as marital aids, adult toys facilitate sexual pleasure for couples or for solo use. A recent study of the Temptations Direct website purchaser figures illustrates that the proportion of women and men buying adult toys is a fairly even split with 52% of women and 48% of men being consumers. If you are new to marital aids and want to try them out for the first time to heighten sexual satisfaction and spice up your bedroom activities but are unsure what sort of toy to buy this guide could help you to make a decision.

What type of sex toy is the best to start off with?

Which sex toy to start with is one of the first things to consider when thinking about the potential purchase of an adult toy? Adult toys come in many different guises: dildos, cock rings, anal sex toys, male and female sex pumps, sex dolls, strap ons and vibrators to name but a few. If you want to experience a penetrative sex toy for the first time it is a good idea to try something that has some degree of flexibility such as a jelly dildo. Non penetrative adult toys such as cock rings that are made of silicon or rubber have some give in them and can help to prolong an erection which is firmer and fuller that can lead to increased sexual satisfaction for both parties. These cock rings have far more flexibility than rigid metal cock rings, which cause considerable restriction to the wearer.

Size and cost matters

Other important factors to consider are size and cost. Start small and work up to bigger martial aids when you are more experienced. Mini vibrators deliver a fantastic orgasm but are small enough to be transported just about anywhere. You also do not want to spend a considerable amount on your first purchase if you are unsure whether you will enjoy the experience of a sex toy. Small vibrators start from as low as £4, jelly dildos are anything from £10 and cock rings retail from as little as £2 and therefore do not result in a considerable outgoing.

Use sexual lubricants

If you are a beginner to penetrative adult toys it is always advisable to use a sexual lubricant. This is especially important in the use of anal sex toys as neither the anus nor the rectum naturally produce their own lubrication so it is imperative that anal lubrication is used for more pleasurable and comfortable anal sex toy pursuits. Moreover, some anal gels and sprays are specifically designed to condition the tissues surrounding the anus and relax the anal muscles, therefore making penetration considerably easier. Anal finger stimulators are ideal for first timers to anal play as not only are they small and inexpensive but they are often made of soft silicone making penetration far more comfortable.

Sex toy cleaner

On purchasing your adult toy you should also contemplate buying a sex toy cleaner. Cheap to buy, this additional item should be utilised immediately after adult toy use to keep it clean. Safe, effective and ant-bacterial, marital aid cleaners help to prevent the spread of germs and bacteria and help to keep your adult toy last for longer.

Do Women Like Sex Toys – 3 Reasons To Consider Using Them (For HER Benefit)

Do women like sex toys? When would a sex toy be a good alternative to actual SEX? Are most women embarrassed to admit we have them? Are we more likely to want to use sex toys in private… or do women really like to share the fun with our boyfriend, husband or lover of any kind? Any of these questions sound familiar? In this article we are going to take a quick and easy look at the popularity of “props” for sex, including the ones that are most popular for women from one side of the globe to the other. Curious to know more? Continue reading as we take a closer look below!

Filed Under: Banishing Embarrassment

First, understand this to be true… because it is. There is nothing “weird” or unusual about women who use sexual aids to achieve orgasm. As a matter of fact, there is nothing wrong with YOU either, if your girlfriend or lover wants to introduce toys into your sex life. The truth is, there are any number of reasons why a woman can’t climax from sexual intercourse, but CAN by using a device that is made for women… BY women, for the explicit purpose of facilitating easy orgasms.

As a matter of fact… women are just as likely to want to enjoy self stimulation and men are. And when you look at the very simple basic biological differences between women and men, you can almost look at a sex toy as the erotic equivalent of a “hand” for a man.

Filed Under: If she can’t climax from sex…

A sex toy, like a vibrator, can be an easy erotic enhancement that will quickly allow her to climax. As a matter of fact, most studies show that 95% + of women are able to quickly achieve orgasm from self stimulation, usually using a “toy”, whereas less than one third of the same group of women can have similar success during sex. Just about every private sexual survey shows that the vast majority of women are NOT enjoying orgasm often during our sex lives, but ARE in fact having easy orgasms on our own. This is due to the disconnect that many women have with their male partners… as well as the fact that most men lack the stamina, skill and occasionally the desire to bring his partner to orgasm, especially after he’s finished.

Filed Under: The biological basis for using sex toys

Without getting too detailed, the truth is, many women are in relationships with men who simply aren’t able to satisfy them do to biological differences, that make climaxing during conventional intercourse impossible. Every woman’s body is unique… and if our partners is not compatible, and unable to stimulate her most sensitive sexual nerve endings because he’s not big enough, or endowed enough to “reach”, she simply won’t be able to climax from intercourse no matter how hard he may try. In this case, for obvious reasons… a sex toy can be a HUGE help (no pun intended!) as it can penetrate more deeply, and stimulate areas of her anatomy that intercourse with her man won’t allow.

For the Boys: Men’s Sex Toys

More and more individuals are allowing themselves to have the once-off-limits conversation about sexual toys. While most sexual toys are designed for women, men’s sex toys are becoming more and more popular. Let’s face it: as far as sex toys go women are at the forefront surrounding adult play. From vibrators to clitoral stimulators, women are the target audience in sole play in the bedroom. The truth is, though, there is a large and ever growing market of toys that are dedicated just to men and their pleasure.

Male sex toys come in a wide variety of shapes, sizes and functionality that suit not only the many different sexual needs of men but their aesthetic pleasure as well. Male sex toys have a variety of uses and below, those are described.

Prostate Pleasure

One of the most sensitive areas of the body on men that can be stimulated and provide an immense amount of sexual pleasure is the prostate. The prostate gland is near the rectum and can result in significant levels of arousal when stimulated. Because of this, many men’s sex toys are now designed specifically to stimulate the prostate gland. Prostate massagers are the most popular toy for prostate play. These toys are placed inside the rectum or they can simply be rubbed along the prostate gland to give that extra “pop” of stimulation allowing for harder erections and orgasms. More specifically, Aneros offers a wide variety of toys for prostate pleasure. The toys in this line are designed to provide a vibrating sensation that result in harder orgasms. Aneros is known for high quality and well-made products making them a leader in the prostate stimulating sex toy line.

Vaginal Replication

There are numerous toys that are crafted to mimic a penis. These mechanisms and toys can be placed inside the body of a man or woman in order to bring about an orgasm or other sexual pleasure. What, though, is available for men that want a vaginal simulation toy? Fleshlight is a toy that is crafted to look and feel like the vagina of a woman. The top of the toy replicates the external region of the female private area, complete with clitoris and labia. The hole on the toy, like the vagina itself, can be inserted into and the ribbing makes it feel like the vaginal cavity. The Fleshlight toy collection comes in a variety of shapes, sizes, and colors, all with the intended goal of eliciting a realistic penetration experience.

Vibrating Fun

Another male sex toy that is available on the market today is the We Vibe. This flexible vibrator has many different uses. The flexibility of this vibrator makes it a perfect toy for both men and women. While some women enjoy the double penetration, men, too, find it useful. For example, it can be inserted into the rectum and then placed in such a way that it simultaneously massages the prostate as well. During heterosexual intercourse, a woman can place this vibrator into her body in such a way that it rubs against the penis of her partner during penetration. Because of the incorporation of men into the product uses and the overall construction of the We Vibe vibrator, this stimulator is a popular choice for males who are looking for the perfect little sexual toy.

With sex toys growing in popularity to enhance the bedroom experience it is no wonder that sex toys for men are becoming more and more popular. There is a rise in gay marriages making the market for men’s playtime toys a continuously growing area. Ladies, step aside! Men are starting to take over the market!

Is She Addicted to Sex Toys? The Truth About Women Who Prefer “Toys” Over Sex With You!

Is she addicted to sex toys? Does she prefer “time alone” over time with you? What does it mean when your girlfriend, wife or lover seems to value alone time more than sexual intercourse?

Any of these questions sound familiar? If you are anything like the millions of men who worry about their ability to satisfy their partner in the sack, the truth is, a woman who enjoys sexual “props”, especially in her alone time, can be a very intimidating thing.

Why? Because for many men, it signals that they may NOT be doing things right, and that their woman is quite literally, taking her sexual satisfaction into her own hands.

Is it possible for a woman to become “addicted” to sex toys?

The truth is, like any other pleasurable behavior that can become an obsession, or compulsive, it is.

The good news?

It’s rare, and a woman who really does compulsively use any sort of instrument of self pleasure in a hyper active way, typically is NOT doing it for the orgasm or sexual sensations alone. Usually, it’s a sign of hyper compulsive sex drive, and often, other deeper and unrelated psychological issues.

The BAD news?

The REAL issue that men worry about is genuine. Many women DO turn to masturbation, be it through using a “toy” or otherwise, simply because they are not able to climax during sex.

The reasons that women report NOT being able to orgasm with their partner during sex?

In a highly publicized sexual survey done in late 2012, the big reasons women privately reported for preferring a sexual toy like a vibrator OVER partner sex were the following.

1 – Their male partners climaxed too quickly. It’s no surprise that sexual stamina and staying power remains the #1 complaint women make about bad sex.

2 – Their partners were “doing it wrong.” Believe it or not, especially with men UNDER 30, lack of sexual skill is one of the most common reasons why a woman can’t have an orgasm, and ultimately resorts to using an aide like a vibrator later, in private. (often when our man has fallen asleep, or the next morning when he’s gone)

3 – Poor “body part” compatibility. Many men simply aren’t properly endowed to satisfy their partners during sex. The truth is, about 80% of women have difficulty achieving orgasm due to size or stamina issues with their present partners. They aren’t able to hit the right spots… and even if they are, they can’t last long enough to bring her to orgasm.

Many women are simply not willing to compromise the “climax” part of the sexual experience any longer, and will resort to ensuring that they DO get their own release, often by ourselves!

Lastly, sex toys WORK! With so much myth and misinformation out there about the female orgasm, the truth is, more than 90% of women report being able to orgasm each and every time when using a toy or sexual prop.

Compare this against the abysmally bad rates women report being able to climax during “real” sex, it’s no big surprise that so many of us now seemed “addicted” to our erotic aides and prefer more “alone” time than we let you know!

Sex Toys – How to Prevent Injuries

The release of Fifty Shades of Grey in 2011 corresponded with a notable rise in the number of emergency room visits attributed to sex toy-related injuries, according to data from the Consumer Product Safety Commission (CPSC). While it can’t be proven that the book itself is responsible for the increase in toy use and injury, it’s pretty clear that the inclusion of a little kink in the bedroom is becoming more mainstream. Partners who decide to use sex toys should take steps to ensure proper vaginal, anal and penile care.

Increase in Injuries

The increase in reported injuries from sex toy use is not entirely new, but a trend that has been documented since the 1990’s. In 2009, researchers from the University of Alabama School of Public Health published a study that found the number of injuries from such products to have doubled from 2.41 per million people in 1995 to 5.46 per million in 2006. Data from the Consumer Product Safety Commission show that, between 2011 and 2012, the number of people going to the emergency room for toy-related injuries jumped from about 1,800 to over 2,500.

Who’s Most Affected?

According to the CPSC data, men are slightly more likely to report to emergency rooms with sex toy-related injuries, accounting for 58% of all such emergency room visits. The median age for injured men is 44, whereas, for women, it’s 30.

What Type of Injuries?

According to the earlier 2009 study:

– 74% involved a vibrator

– 13% involved a dildo

– 2% involved a ring

– 11% involved a different toy

– 78% of injuries were anorectal

– 18% involved the penis or vagina

According to the CPSC data, 83% of injuries reported involved “foreign body removal.” These bits of information combined suggest that most people who are getting injured from sex toy use are doing so by getting the toys stuck inside them, especially in the rear entrance, something that can be prevented with a couple safety steps.

Preventing Injury

People wanting to use sex toys in the bedroom shouldn’t be discouraged from doing so. While the data show a rise in injuries related to these products, the injuries are still extremely rare. Of course, not everyone with slight toy-related injuries reports to the emergency room, so we can assume that the overall injury rate is higher. However, couples can prevent most of these injuries with a little education, and by choosing their toys wisely. Here are a few very basic prevention steps:

1) Use adequate lubrication. As said above, most reported injuries were anorectal. Whenever penetration occurs in this area, it’s vital to use plenty of lubrication. This goes for vaginal penetration as well, though the vagina is more naturally lubricated and expansive than the anus.

2) Don’t go too big. One might think that the longest, thickest rod will be the most pleasurable, but this is absolutely not the case for many people. When purchasing one’s first dildo or vibrator, it’s important to get one that is not gigantic. If one has used an average-sized replica and wants to try a larger size, one should work his or her way up gradually. Starting out with the largest available option can lead to excess friction, skin tearing and even a situation where removal is difficult.

3) Keep restraints loose. Not all injuries are related to dildos and vibrators. Couples experimenting with bondage may experience injuries in the form of rope burns and circulation issues related to restraints that are too tight. If tying a partner up, make sure that a finger or two can easily slide between the material and his or her body, and do frequent circulation checks.

Home Made Sex Toys for Men to Enjoy

When it comes to masturbation, some guys never get bored. Whether it’s because they just love how their hand feels or because they practice different grip and rhythm techniques, more power to them. But, for some men, the same old hand can be a bit lackluster after a while. Since regular use and frequent ejaculations are beneficial to penile health, it’s important for men to find ways to revel in self-gratification. The following fun DIY tips will teach men how to give the hand a rest by creating their own sex toys with items found around the house.

1) Toilet paper/Paper towel tube: For many men, the cardboard tubes that provide structural integrity to toilet paper and paper towel rolls can also provide a tight but accommodating fit for an eager penis. The cardboard itself is too rough for the penis, so men should use their favorite condoms with this method. Simply insert the condom into the tube, fold the open end over the edge of the tube and tape it in place on the tube’s exterior. Put some lube in the condom and go to town. Men can derive extra enjoyment by pulling on the condom’s tip while masturbating; this creates a suction feel, replicating oral play.

2) Cup and sponge: A guy can also look for a cup in his kitchen that is long enough to house his member. He can then take two sponges, large enough to each fill half the cup’s inner wall, wet them in warm water and then fit them snuggly within the cup. Guys should be sure to use the softest of sponges for this one. Place lube in the crevices between the sponges and have at it.

3) Bubble wrap bottle: This one is similar to, but more complex and plush than, the cup and sponge method above. Guys can evenly cut off the top of a plastic soda bottle; then, they can take two large sponges, place them next to one another on a large sheet of bubble wrap and wrap them up. There should be extra bubble wrap that can be used to stretch over the edge of the bottle. Place the wrapped sponges inside the bottle; they should cover most of the bottle’s interior walls and leave a hole in the middle of the bottle just big enough to thrust the penis into. Fold the extra bubble wrap over the top edge of the bottle and tape it to the outside. Lube up the inside and enjoy the sensation of the bubbles on the penis.

4) Old-fashioned sock: Most guys have seen the American Pie film and at least considered emptying into a sock. The trick here is to place a surgical glove inside the sock with some lube, as the material of the sock may chafe the penis. Roll the top of the sock to create a tight doughnut, place the glove inside and fold the opening over the sock top. Then it’s ready to go.

5) Couch cushion baggie: Guys should take caution with this one, since a heavy couch cushion could place too much pressure on the member. If one’s furniture is deemed suitable, a man can simply fill a plastic baggie with lube (taking time to cut off the zip strip should the baggie have one), place it between couch cushions and enjoy the replicated vagina.

Even when a man takes precautions to ensure he’s playing with his new toys safely – using plenty of lube and condoms or glove liners, for example – frequent masturbation and the friction it brings can leave the member feeling chafed and dry. To help the skin heal and remain resilient, men can use a penis health creme (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) with Shea butter and vitamin E after their shower; these natural moisturizers will keep skin smooth, supple and ready for the next session.

Unusual Sex Toys for the Erect Penis

There are hours of endless fun to be had with an erect penis, but even the most ardent fan of masturbation can occasionally get a bit bored with his regular routines. Fortunately, there are any number of sex toys available to make solo playtime more fun (provided one practices appropriate penis care when using them, of course). Most men are familiar with penis rings and the like, but there are quite a few unusual sex toys of which many men may be unaware. Let’s take a look at some of these more obscure options for self-pleasuring.

Better with beer.

Beer is the preferred drink for most men and in America, a beer can is a popular symbol of masculinity. Why not combine this favorite masculine drink with the female body part most popular with heterosexual males? Fortunately, someone has, and so a man can easily enliven his masturbatory activities by inserting his penis into a beer can that has been wrapped around a silicone vagina. Having sex with two of his favorite objects at one time should make many a man happy.

Better with a brick.

While the majority of men prefer to have sex with an actual female, sometimes a guy is so excited that he’ll be satisfied with anything with an appropriate opening. In Japan, some men satisfy their lustful feelings by using a brick. Not just any brick, of course, but a brick which has a hole drilled through the middle of it. As might be imagined, this is not the most comfortable item to use on sensitive penis skin. Still, for those who like to prove just how tough their member is, it has a certain fascination.

Driving pleasure.

Plenty of men who grow bored on a long car trip have been known to masturbate while driving – a dangerous activity, but a not uncommon one. It can be made a bit safer by utilizing specially designed sex toys that are placed on the erect penis in order to simulate oral sex. Many such sex toys are designed specifically for use in the automobile and can be plugged into the car’s cigarette lighter outlet. It’s still not safe, though, and such a toy is best used when a man is pulled over in a discreet location.

Bibbing it.

One of the problems with masturbating is that semen tends to splatter all around the crotch, creating quite a mess – especially if one is self-gratifying while wearing clothes. A masturbation bib – a large, circular paper towel with a hole in the middle for penis insertion – can help to make post-ejaculation clean-up much easier.

Animal-style anal plugs.

Anal plugs can provide pleasurable stimulation for masturbatory activities. For the man who has a special identification with animals, some plugs have been built to resemble tails. The corkscrew pig tail plug seems to be especially popular among this niche audience.

Alien love dolls.

Sci-fi enthusiasts can get a special thrill from inflatable dolls with a fairly humanoid female form – but with more options, such as three breasts and multiple orifices for insertion. Many come in skin tones not typically found on Earth and while most lack extra limbs, the enterprising sci-fi fan can find a DIY way to add arms or legs himself.

Clearly, there’s a wide range of sex toys available for the adventurous owner of an erect penis, although he may have to do some searching to find some of the more obscure ones. Whether using a toy or an old-fashioned hand, men need to regularly employ a top-notch penis health creme (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) to keep the penis healthy and to soothe it after lengthy self-love sessions. Excessive and aggressive rubbing can make an erect penis quite raw, so finding a crème that contains a combination of a high-end emollient (such as Shea butter) and a natural hydrator (vitamin E is excellent) is required. Also very helpful: a crème with acetyl L-carnitine in its ingredients list. Acetyl L-carnitine is neuroprotective and can help restore sensitivity lost from too much rough handling of the member. Self-pleasuring can get out of hand sometimes, so an exceptional crème is needed to maintain proper health.

Sex Toys for Him and Her: Thank God for Technology

Technology has made some exciting strides in the realm of sex toys. Toys aren’t just for women; there are plenty of options out there for men as well, and they’ve gone a long way from the “pocket pussy” (not that there’s anything wrong with that old stand-by!). Frequent ejaculation is believed to be a component of good penis health, and masturbation is a great way for a man to get to know his body. Not to mention, it’s one of the more enjoyable activities in the world. Learning about the amazing options out there can help a man expand his masturbatory horizons, and his lady’s, too.

Autoblow 2

As the name suggests, the Autoblow 2 is designed to simulate the feeling of oral sex. It has a sleeve in which the penis is inserted, and two rows of rollers that move up and down the penis via motor power. The sleeve is easy to wash. It is recommended that men use a water-based lube with the toy. The Autoblow 2 runs upwards of $159.00, but for a hands-free solo-based simulated blow job, that’s not likely too steep for many men.


The Lovely is a wearable device for the penis that serves many functions. First, it vibrates, which is a pleasurable experience whether with a partner or on one’s own. But where the real technology comes in is with the Lovely App; the device records data, including thrusting G-force, speed and sex positions, and sends this information to an app that men can use to analyze their performance. Partners can participate in this process as well. Along with vibrating and giving performance information, the app makes suggestions for new positions to try. Finally, it counts how many calories a man burns during his romp.

Lovely’s creators launched an IndieGoGo campaign to fund the product, but the campaign fell short. However, the creators are continuing to gather investors, so men should keep their eyes out for this fun device.

OhMiBod blueMotion

This funky toy allows couples to get frisky in public, adding a whole new level to foreplay. The man uses an Android or iPhone app to control the vibrator from up to 30 feet away, and the toy can be worn by a woman wherever she goes (it comes with a thong that contains a pocket for the vibrator). This opens up some options for couples with a naughty streak – the man can surprise the woman with a pulse here or there while they’re out on the town, or send her on a prolonged journey to orgasm unexpectedly from another room. Discuss boundaries with partners.

These are but a few of the many options out there for playful men, and, with ever-advancing technology, the market can only be expected to grow more innovative and titillating.

As men incorporate new toys into the mix, they may find themselves spending a bit more time than before using their members. It’s important to practice good hygiene and take extra care of the skin to prevent chafing and dryness.

Along with thoroughly washing all sex toys with mild cleanser and using plenty of lube, men may also want to invest in a penis health creme (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil). A crème with Shea butter and vitamin E provides superior moisture to protect skin from the frictions of the day and night, helping keep it soft, smooth and ready for the next romp, be it with a hand, toy or partner. Man1 Man Oil also contains acetyl L-carnitine, which has neuroprotective properties; this is important, as frequent and/or rough handling can lead to a deadening of penile nerves and therefore of pleasure over time. Keep the penis in top form with a penis health crème to ensure that those sex toys stay enjoyable for the long-haul.

Sex Toys for Long-Distance Lovers

Internet access via computer and smartphone have opened up a lot of opportunity for long-distance lovers to maintain intimacy – and that includes sexual intimacy. This is important, since sexual health is crucial both for the well-being of each partner and for nearly any relationship. From sexting to Snapchat to video chatting, partners can enjoy one another’s bodies from afar. While these forms of long-distance intimacy are great, advances in technology are now making it possible for people to more directly pleasure one another, fostering greater connections between spread-out lovers. Anyone with a partner far away should know about the following sex toys.


This his-and-hers toy set is truly a marvel of the modern world. It comes with the Nora – a dildo with a clitoral stimulator for her – and the Max – a masturbation sleeve for him. The toys are controlled via an app, which acts like a remote. The Nora dildo has rotating beads inside it and a vibrating arm for outside, the speeds of which can be controlled; the Max sleeve contains an air pump that contracts to mimic vaginal contractions, and it vibrates as well – speed of contractions and vibration can be controlled.

Partners can control their own toys for solo play, but the true magic of the Lovense set comes from the fact that the toys can interact with one another via the app. That means that, when she cranks up the rotating beads/vibration of her Nora, his Max contracts and vibrates faster, and vice versa. This interactivity of the toys gets long-distance lovers as close to having sex with one another as is likely possible. The set will run from $200-$400, which isn’t anything to sneeze at, but it may be worth it for partners who don’t get to see one another often.


This is not so much a his-and-hers toy, as only one stimulating toy is involved; however, the control it gives the man may make it plenty stimulating for him as well. The Vibease is a wearable clitoral vibrator that fits inside a woman’s panties; she can wear it to bed, around the house or even out and about, depending on how daring she is. The man can activate the vibrator and vary its speed using an app from any location. At any time.

Couples who use a toy like the Vibease need to discuss ground rules – when will she wear it? How important is the element of surprise here? Are there any blocks of time that will be off limits on a particular day? Working these questions out will ensure that the experience is highly pleasurable without coming at an inopportune time. This toy will likely run partners between $90 and $120, depending on whether it’s on sale.

Clone a Willy

Sometimes a woman wants a particular penis inside her, and when the man possessing that penis is far away, nothing else might feel as good. Now, she can get pretty damn close. This cloning kit comes with a molding gel to make a detailed mold of the penis and silicone to fill the mold with. The finished product looks like real skin. There are Clone a Pussy kits as well, but they only clone the outside (vulva) and aren’t designed to have sex with. The kits are fairly cheap, running under $40 each.

Getting these and other sex toys involved in a couple’s playtime can lead to more frequent sensual activity – which means greater need for penile care. The skin of the penis is delicate and prone to chafing with frequent use and rough handling. Just because a lover is far away doesn’t mean a man can slack on keeping his manhood in peak condition. Using a penis health creme (health professionals recommend Man1 Man Oil) is a great idea, since it packs in natural moisturizers (Shea butter and vitamin E) and even contains the neuroprotective ingredient acetyl L-carnitine, which helps preserve nerve sensitivity in the member. So get some great sex toys, engage with a long-distance lover and take the best care of the penis possible.